As I begin my new article, im a bit confused..Its been a while that I ve posted an article on my blog.. and I really don’t know what do I write bout.. the last one year was pretty hectic..and I therefore decided to give my synapses a lil rest!
So the simplest thing to do would be to just share a few experiences which happened last year…
As a first year resident in CVTS, I got to learn a lot of things, that I could only fantasise about earlier…the sight of the heart ‘beating’ in front of your eyes is simply AMAZING!!!! Playing with the tiny toons in my ward has been THE MOST EXHILRATING experience of my life… a few of them would accompany me for my rounds and I would often ask them to take BP of all the pts if they were to assist me in my rounds.. that would bring a sweet smile on to their faces and that was probably THE MOMENT of my life! I was humbled and astonished to see how well these kids fought for life, post operatively and that taught me ,never give up….always put in your maximum efforts…and of course, let the Lord decide coz the final call is always HIS!
Though I have taken pride in our successes, i have also been grounded by the harsh reality that the WORST feeling of life is when your loved one passes away and, even, you as a doctor can’t do anything…[it all happens in an instant, and life is never the same thence!!].
A few instances that come to my mind when I say this are-
Shrushti, a 2 yr old child, probably the sweetest that I ve seen so far. She was born with an absent thumb, radial hypoplasia and a congenital heart disease. Already operated by plastic surgeons, she was then referred to us. Her mom was criticised for having such a baby by her in laws ever since she was born.. she had no support from them. She, therefore, took up a job in the local store so that she could meet the expenses of her child s surgery. I was following her up in the opd.. In the midst of all this, my dad had an heart attack, and I lost her . Surprisingly, she came looking for dad in ICCU , wished him the best and asked me if Shrushti would be fine..this she would do, everyday! Sadly, Shrushti did not make it. I was heart broken and she was just inconsolable…that s the least that I can say!!! Bcoz no words can ever substitute for feelings… [..any form of love, the day its gone.. the whole world crumbles down!....and you feel helpless and hapless…]
The next one was one amongst us, my brethren.. Samip, my junior from Sion and a surgery resident too. He was diagnosed with dilated cardiomyopathy with a very low Ejection Fraction on the eve of his exams. He had presented with palpitations and breathlessness and was diagnosed to have ‘examination blues!’ But when his symptoms did not abate even after the exams were over, everyone was in for a shock! We admitted him ..but, his conditioned worsened progressively. We could see it all…and that day I understood how helpless one can be…!!! Each and every treatment modality was tried on him, sadly nothing seemed to work! Finally we decided to go in for a cardiac transplant [..since he was suffering from an autoimmune disease, we had refrained from a transplant till now!!] but then it was all too late as his myocardium gave up the very next night…and again we were reduced to the mere mortals, who could just wait and watch!!! As I glance through his fb homepage, I get tat sinking feeling and its not nice!! All those photos remind me of him and those days at Sion..not good at all…
The very next day after this incident I was in for a rude shock.. life can make you cry,at times! Today was no different! My friend and a fellow medicine resident at kemh.. sandeep patil..was no more. He was on the way to Bombay hospital on his bike, when he was hit by an unidentified truck near Imax, Wadala. The driver ,obviously, sped away… and by the time help arrived in the form of the Mumbai police ‘Flying Squad’, he had breath his last! It is horrendous to face the agony of losing a son in this manner..the ashen gray face of his parents spoke a thousand words!
Another dear one whom I lost recently….Greta… I dunno wat to say..just as I glance through my album called-THE GOOD OLE’ DAYS on fb… again those memories rush to my mind!..the first time when I visited Karande sir …met Gretu and played with her for the entire day…the day she gave birth to Ninotschka, and again I played with them for the entire day!!.. Will miss all tat..!!
So as you see guys, the first year in Cvts was a lil hectic and I had quite a few ‘sad n gloomy’ moments on the way..
And then….
………….. my juniors arrived and along came..Second year!!! A year where the OT shut down and now suddenly, we had lots of time on our hands… so I was back on fb… getting back to terms with the world and all the happenings around! Now, unfortunately, I was game. Hunted down by mom & dad..no reasoning seemed to work!! All my excuses were in vain as they proclaimed that this is the time for you to get hooked.. I was very sceptical in the beginning! Tried every trick up my sleeve..tried to run away..but..rishte mein toh who hamaare baap lagte hai.. I had to succumb…sob sob..
.. but then the hilarious part of this new journey began.. soon I realised that after fb..these matrimony sites offered you the best humorous posts that one can ever find!! Sambhaji, Supreet and Prabodh.. I’m sure that you guys agree to this[..idea of a blind date!]!!
Soon I realised that the entire nation is full of understanding, fun loving, educated, cultured and respected families!! And that every son/daughter is good looking, understanding, adjustable, sophisticated and has a good sense of humor…blah blah… and that ‘expectations’ are always simple.. ‘a guy who is down to earth, has no attitude, convent educated, earns more than 7lakhs/annum, preferably settled in a metro, is liberal in thinking, respects everyone, rooted and completely family oriented, humble and simple living, with high thinking and caring, with strong traditional values, affectionate, someone who can understand ‘her’ and her feelings too..caste no bar…blah blah..the list just goes on..and on..and on……!!!!’
For the beginners, after school this is probably the most extensive questionnaire that one may have filled- it goes something like this-
PERSONAL>name/age/ht/wt/body type/complexion/physical status/bld group
Name-not really imp coz the matrimony site gives u its own..[eg-b967814, rva38310, etc etc..and you fought with your best friend for calling you names..and then you live to see this day..tsk..tsk..]
Age- imp coz the site offers you choices from 18-45yr..when you ve displayed the fact that you are not interested in child marriage and marrying someone who would qualify as your mother s friend!!
Ht and wt- search options vary from dwarfs to giants..take your pick! Deception guaranteed!!
Body type and complexion- the most subjective variable coz people write what they feel bout themselves which need not be necessarily the way the world perceives them..i had to fight with my parents when they mentioned me as fair…if im fair then the rest would automatically qualify as albinos…he he…
Physical status- tell the world whether you ve been there before or is this the first time!!...
Bld grp- thankfully only the ABO and Rh system is followed here! And if u happen to be Bombay blood group, u ve had it then!
RELIGIOUS INFORMATION>religion/caste/sub caste/gothram/zodiac/raasi/manglik/horoscope match
Religion- you can pick from Hinduism to Christianity ….this is one of the imp criteria of arranged match making..so preferably it should be the same as yours!
Caste and subcaste- never knew tat so many existed in india till now!! You can select from a wide range of 72 variables!! And then all those complicated stories that a maharastrian ‘Maratha’ boy will not marry a maharashtrian ‘Sonar’ gal… god bless the society coz they say-caste no bar!!!
Gothram/ Zodiac/Raasi- these are to narrow down your options from 100 to zero in one go… marry someone only with deba’ gana if u re rakshasha’ gana and who was born between 13th feb-13th march or in the month of may or from 15th sept to 15th nov..god…what the hell is this!
Manglik/ Horoscope match- by now if your options haven’t narrowed down to zero..now they will! You are given percentages.. Just as the good ole’ school-days when the results came out…!!! But unfortunately these are worse and getting first division in this regard..is a rarity..!!
LIFESTYLE> eating habits/drinking habits/smoking habits
Eating habits- vegetarian or non vegetarian…[but, no one mentions bout the extent to which she ll chew your brains after marriage!!]
Smoking/ drinking habits- most say ‘no’ to these…only to get addicted to them after marriage!!
LOCATION> country/state/city/ resident status/citizenship
This information discloses your NRI status and the capacity to earn in dollars..remember-‘ the dollar bahu, by sudha murthy’!!
PROFESSIONAL> education category/occupation/ employed in/ annual income
It is a bit ironical that the last measure i.e income tends to cover up for the inadequacies in the first two… shouldn’t be the case on ideal grounds..
FAMILY> family values/type/status/ancestral origin/fathers n mother s occupation/ no of brothers and sisters
An interesting read coz after school this is when you get to read histories [..again!!..] of individual families[..thus replacing Shivaji, Chandragupta Maurya, Ashoka ,Alexander the great!]. And all this, right from their ancestors [..who lived in the ICE age..!!] till the family tree which spans today..
ABOUT THE FAMILY/ FEW WORD S ABOUT YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR!
This is where you realise why you had essay and précis writing in school.. everyone is expected to write an autobiography… without grammatical errors!
And then the lifelines-phone, message, chat, photos, reference, matrimony stamp!!!
Phew , that sure is something na!! plus the fact that after all this the site[ depending on where the head office is located..chennai, noida, etc etc] will give you loads to think about but from their own backyard..like it or not!
So, at CCD the other day.. we sat discussing what s going on in our lives.. since we were all in the same boat.. and then i realised how funny this whole thing was! Listening to the stories from the experienced ones makes you realise how you end up meeting the exact opposite of you by this method! And then you realise how different people are! Of course your GK improves but that’s not what you re looking for..isnt it?
So , being , the destiny believer that I am.. and the biggest lazybones’ when it comes to hunting for one[..as ANUP very aptly describes me!] I ve decided to chill… tension kai ko lene ka.. sahi boltay sahi boltay!!!
So let me just listen to the song that Supreet downloaded today which says-
Mera o mera chehraa,… hua mujshe anjaan kyun..kaun hu main ..ooooo
Awaaz to hai meri par kehta koi aur hai..
jhooti meri baatein aur saccha mera pyaar
Tu kya meri pehchaan hai..bolo na kya naam hai..
Call me dil..call me baby..call me jo naam tu mein wohi..
Call me sach toh mein saccha..Call me, chahe jhoota hi sahi…
AND also this lovely video-
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=144576538933230
Though this song has no relevance in this JUNK piece of work.. I just mentioned it simply because- I like it!!! He he…
And now I just heard that my OT s gonna start soon.. so I believe the good ole dayz re back.. and again the excuse that I ve no time should work…as always… !!!
Thanks for reading this extremely irritating and chauvinistic piece of work.. do not get carried away or pelt me with stones , the next time you see me…!! And that should make me happy..as always!!!
Goodbye……..
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Sunday, March 27, 2011
...an indecent proposal
Well.. I know that this reminds you of the movie starring Michael Douglas and Demi Moore (…just as I mention her name, the temp in my living room has soared to 40.2deg Celsius …must be due to the lack of the greenhouse effect,these days.. right na!!!)
… sadly this article does not bear any resemblance to the Hollywood flick, nor is it as interesting and enchanting as the sultry siren in the movie!!
…still if you want to read this lack lustre piece of work… go on.. I charge no fee and all my works are freebies!!
……well, it all started with Rashi( name changed to protect identity..heehee!!!) visiting me.. I was admitted in the cool and calm environment of our MICU and she had a genuine problem and needed my help..???!!!!! And I thought could there be a better way to provide cool solutions than 18deg cel of micuII[cooling solutions to help the ‘proposed’ do better.. eh …!!!!] She had a proposal from this guy (one of my fellas doing MCh CVTS first year…) and she wanted to know if-
1. He could spend enough time with her?
2. Would talk bout cardiac surgery all the while?
3. Would be fun loving or would he be a geek?
4. How long would it take post MCh for him to settle down?
5. Would he earn enough after that?(vis a vis the engineers/ mba s/ ias/ips/ca s/ cricketers!!!)
6. Would he spend time at home too… and would he take me out to outings and all?
7. And lastly..do you know him.. I mean, what kind of person is he?
Well, my head went into a spin… true I thought, a medico gal must be thinking on these lines before they decide upon an alliance…
And then I thought…oh god! Is being a medico guy[esp, CVTS], that bad a proposition after all!!!!!
Well I believe that if a child is destined to be a surgeon, then he should begin early, to be at par with his engineering/mba counterparts!![Else when you have a 6 fig bank account , they ve a 7 fig one.. just ahead by a single ‘zero’ only-/-] Nursery and kg should be done by the age of 3yrs. Ten yrs of schooling should be completed asap[preferably in 5 yrs….phew! whats taking you so long!!!].. schools should have everything taught in mcq format..
e.g-
Solve the following problem and then mark the correct ans-
Q. X2-4x -3=0, find the value of ‘x’.
[a]x=1 ,3 [b]x=2,3 [c] x=3,3 [d]x=1,2
Q.The Sign of Four was written by-
[a] William Shakespeare [b] J K Rowling [c] Shobha De [d] Sir Arthur conandoyle
Q. Where is the Khyber Pass?
[a] Iceland [b] Afganistan [c] India [d] Pakistan [e] Cuba
Q. Who built the QutubMinar?
[a] nawab siraj-ud-daula [b] nizam mir kasim II [c] qutub –ud-din-aibak [d] mohammed ghazni
Q. ‘Godaan’ kisne likha hai?
[a] munshi premchand [b] abdul kalam saab [c] Rabindranath tagore [d] amrit lal dubey
Q. ‘Tatera indica’ is the scientific name of which creature?
[a] mongoose [b] rat [c] bandicoot [d] mouse [e]gremlins
…blah…blah the list could go on..all this just to prepare you for the battery of entrances that you are likely to face in the coming years…!!!
After all the hard work and getting that prized mbbs seat [ provided ur dad is not a DONOR- matlab ki you ve not secured the seat via donations and all!!...coz that s the other way out; sans all the hard work…eat, drink and be merry..ho ho hum, and a bottle of rum!!]
NOW WHAT SHOULD YOU DO? Well, if ur gonna be a surgeon someday, that too a superspeciality one, then I strongly suggest that you should form an alliance at this age. Go ahead and look for a sweet lil cutsiepie and book her!! Bcoz if you end up becoming a CVTS guy like any of us- god save you buddy! Alliances will approach you with a questionnaire, and frankly im not sure what grade would you end up with!!! Ha ha!! And there s always a chance that your past alliance would de-book you ;since you are CVTS guy now, but why be so pessimistic yaar…optimism rules the world…so be it!!!![…thankfully I ve not had had this ‘questionable’ opportunity but the future looks bleak..and its giving me those shivers!!!... No wonder this is my third admission to the micu in 6 months! Ha ha ha!]
And when your parents ask you – what kind of gal are you looking for? [provided they ask you i.e…. coz mine are extremely lazy and keep telling me to do it by myself!! And I keep suggesting dad that post retirement this is the best thing to do..so plz do the needful, but he denies! Boo hoo!] tell them that a `simple, good natured, and understanding gal, who simply put, loves you; is all that you seek for!! Just don’t get into the medico vs non medico business….[I ve been strictly advised to stay put on this one, else the 3 musketeers sar mam, sam rege sir and karande sir re gonna kill me! And I wanna live…like a cannonball..hmmn, which song is that…westlife, nah.. which band guys,help me..looks like im having a failing memory..premature senility???too bad?? paaa…!!!!]
And then her voice ushered me from my sub conscious state to the conscious… tell me na, she asked!?? I told her- look rashi , I do not know how to put it but since u ve asked me let me try! I believe that you should look up to the[any] guy as a person first!!.. coz as a cvts guy , he ll be less fortunate than the others in terms of time as well as monetarily! But if the person appeals to you..just go for it is all that I would say! And if the other aspects are more imp then probably you would be dissatisfied! At the end of the day, its your call..nothing is right and nothing is wrong!!!!!!! Well, she got up with a slightly confused and satisfied look and left [ now plz don’t ask me the percentages of confusion and satisfaction!!! Ask her!!] … needless to say, I got a call from her this morning.. she has decided to assess him as a person first and ve tugged me into it by saying that I ve to take her to meet him…smart work gal! grrrr… [ and when I started telling her how busy my schedule is…shez roped me in by offering to help me find a gal for myself!! Waah! Thanks for the perk smarty!! True, I ve heard of the dental gals von nair/gdc thanx to another alien creature sitting in the lib and reading oncology the whole day! … I can see that with friends like the two of you, my future is indeed in secure hands!! I ve left it to destiny, so be it….ok.And im available for your match fixing business… as long as you don’t offer me the perks!!!!!!! He he!! So till then, just enjoy… while I read this sms sent to me by Mahesh which says-
What is the height of bad luck?
A boy and girl met last time
For a break up….
Girl s father caught them…..
Now they re a married couple!!!tc!!
I don’t know whether the tc[take care] was for the couple or me, but trust me Mahesh if at all I do something like that, I will indeed tc [ in fact I ll take a sprite –univ of freshology lesson before embarking on something like that..just love that ad.. wonder how many guys have been benefitted by it already]!!he he!!....and I hope this one wasn’t ur own doing doc? Wait.. I ll ask ur gal the next time I meet her! hmmmn!!
…well that s it folks, here is swarupdoc signing off… thanks for reading this insensible thing..lets do the dew now! !!
… sadly this article does not bear any resemblance to the Hollywood flick, nor is it as interesting and enchanting as the sultry siren in the movie!!
…still if you want to read this lack lustre piece of work… go on.. I charge no fee and all my works are freebies!!
……well, it all started with Rashi( name changed to protect identity..heehee!!!) visiting me.. I was admitted in the cool and calm environment of our MICU and she had a genuine problem and needed my help..???!!!!! And I thought could there be a better way to provide cool solutions than 18deg cel of micuII[cooling solutions to help the ‘proposed’ do better.. eh …!!!!] She had a proposal from this guy (one of my fellas doing MCh CVTS first year…) and she wanted to know if-
1. He could spend enough time with her?
2. Would talk bout cardiac surgery all the while?
3. Would be fun loving or would he be a geek?
4. How long would it take post MCh for him to settle down?
5. Would he earn enough after that?(vis a vis the engineers/ mba s/ ias/ips/ca s/ cricketers!!!)
6. Would he spend time at home too… and would he take me out to outings and all?
7. And lastly..do you know him.. I mean, what kind of person is he?
Well, my head went into a spin… true I thought, a medico gal must be thinking on these lines before they decide upon an alliance…
And then I thought…oh god! Is being a medico guy[esp, CVTS], that bad a proposition after all!!!!!
Well I believe that if a child is destined to be a surgeon, then he should begin early, to be at par with his engineering/mba counterparts!![Else when you have a 6 fig bank account , they ve a 7 fig one.. just ahead by a single ‘zero’ only-/-] Nursery and kg should be done by the age of 3yrs. Ten yrs of schooling should be completed asap[preferably in 5 yrs….phew! whats taking you so long!!!].. schools should have everything taught in mcq format..
e.g-
Solve the following problem and then mark the correct ans-
Q. X2-4x -3=0, find the value of ‘x’.
[a]x=1 ,3 [b]x=2,3 [c] x=3,3 [d]x=1,2
Q.The Sign of Four was written by-
[a] William Shakespeare [b] J K Rowling [c] Shobha De [d] Sir Arthur conandoyle
Q. Where is the Khyber Pass?
[a] Iceland [b] Afganistan [c] India [d] Pakistan [e] Cuba
Q. Who built the QutubMinar?
[a] nawab siraj-ud-daula [b] nizam mir kasim II [c] qutub –ud-din-aibak [d] mohammed ghazni
Q. ‘Godaan’ kisne likha hai?
[a] munshi premchand [b] abdul kalam saab [c] Rabindranath tagore [d] amrit lal dubey
Q. ‘Tatera indica’ is the scientific name of which creature?
[a] mongoose [b] rat [c] bandicoot [d] mouse [e]gremlins
…blah…blah the list could go on..all this just to prepare you for the battery of entrances that you are likely to face in the coming years…!!!
After all the hard work and getting that prized mbbs seat [ provided ur dad is not a DONOR- matlab ki you ve not secured the seat via donations and all!!...coz that s the other way out; sans all the hard work…eat, drink and be merry..ho ho hum, and a bottle of rum!!]
NOW WHAT SHOULD YOU DO? Well, if ur gonna be a surgeon someday, that too a superspeciality one, then I strongly suggest that you should form an alliance at this age. Go ahead and look for a sweet lil cutsiepie and book her!! Bcoz if you end up becoming a CVTS guy like any of us- god save you buddy! Alliances will approach you with a questionnaire, and frankly im not sure what grade would you end up with!!! Ha ha!! And there s always a chance that your past alliance would de-book you ;since you are CVTS guy now, but why be so pessimistic yaar…optimism rules the world…so be it!!!![…thankfully I ve not had had this ‘questionable’ opportunity but the future looks bleak..and its giving me those shivers!!!... No wonder this is my third admission to the micu in 6 months! Ha ha ha!]
And when your parents ask you – what kind of gal are you looking for? [provided they ask you i.e…. coz mine are extremely lazy and keep telling me to do it by myself!! And I keep suggesting dad that post retirement this is the best thing to do..so plz do the needful, but he denies! Boo hoo!] tell them that a `simple, good natured, and understanding gal, who simply put, loves you; is all that you seek for!! Just don’t get into the medico vs non medico business….[I ve been strictly advised to stay put on this one, else the 3 musketeers sar mam, sam rege sir and karande sir re gonna kill me! And I wanna live…like a cannonball..hmmn, which song is that…westlife, nah.. which band guys,help me..looks like im having a failing memory..premature senility???too bad?? paaa…!!!!]
And then her voice ushered me from my sub conscious state to the conscious… tell me na, she asked!?? I told her- look rashi , I do not know how to put it but since u ve asked me let me try! I believe that you should look up to the[any] guy as a person first!!.. coz as a cvts guy , he ll be less fortunate than the others in terms of time as well as monetarily! But if the person appeals to you..just go for it is all that I would say! And if the other aspects are more imp then probably you would be dissatisfied! At the end of the day, its your call..nothing is right and nothing is wrong!!!!!!! Well, she got up with a slightly confused and satisfied look and left [ now plz don’t ask me the percentages of confusion and satisfaction!!! Ask her!!] … needless to say, I got a call from her this morning.. she has decided to assess him as a person first and ve tugged me into it by saying that I ve to take her to meet him…smart work gal! grrrr… [ and when I started telling her how busy my schedule is…shez roped me in by offering to help me find a gal for myself!! Waah! Thanks for the perk smarty!! True, I ve heard of the dental gals von nair/gdc thanx to another alien creature sitting in the lib and reading oncology the whole day! … I can see that with friends like the two of you, my future is indeed in secure hands!! I ve left it to destiny, so be it….ok.And im available for your match fixing business… as long as you don’t offer me the perks!!!!!!! He he!! So till then, just enjoy… while I read this sms sent to me by Mahesh which says-
What is the height of bad luck?
A boy and girl met last time
For a break up….
Girl s father caught them…..
Now they re a married couple!!!tc!!
I don’t know whether the tc[take care] was for the couple or me, but trust me Mahesh if at all I do something like that, I will indeed tc [ in fact I ll take a sprite –univ of freshology lesson before embarking on something like that..just love that ad.. wonder how many guys have been benefitted by it already]!!he he!!....and I hope this one wasn’t ur own doing doc? Wait.. I ll ask ur gal the next time I meet her! hmmmn!!
…well that s it folks, here is swarupdoc signing off… thanks for reading this insensible thing..lets do the dew now! !!
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
And thereby hangs a tale….
I was speaking to my fast friend… we were speaking after a long time and so we had lots to share! And my telecom operator will tell you how generous I am under such circumstances!!! I really wish at times that getting hooked to a GM of a telecom company isn’t that bad an idea at all! What say, imagine not having to spend a penny on your phone bills, chat incessantly..without any bounds, free email and limitless social networking…wow, that is so cool!Well, they say that if wishes were horses even beggars would ride!! And I still haven’t found the wish fulfilling tree as yet ..and so these phone bills continue to burn a hole in my pocket (thanks dad mom, thanks for being there!!)…
……all this while when I was talking on the phone, I could hear someone wailing in the background..what was it?? Cross connection? Halluncination?( you know, in the olden days, when the lords used to stay in their castles in the moor, every castle had a ‘banshee’ and when it wailed, it signified bad luck..an omen that something evil would befall the family!!)with this grim sound in the background, I was just not comfortable. So I hung up and tried to find out what was wrong?and where? Just as I came out of my room, the sound of sobbing grew louder! And I followed my ears as they led me to this room with closed doors! Yes! I could hear someone sobbing inside. Now this room was occupied by one of our first year residents! I was sure that something was amiss.. I mustered all my courage and banged on the door..no response.. the sobs continued!... thud! Again I banged the door and asked her to please open the door and let me in… again, no response! Thick beads of perspiration from my forehead trickled down over my face! I could feel my heart beats’ now…palpitations as they call it! I picked up my cell and dialled her roomie s no..and quickly told her about the situation down here! She was here in a jiffy, and both of us were now banging at the door but with the same result!!!?? The sobs had stopped and gurgling noises were heard! Neither of us had any clue of what was happening… and both of us were equally flummoxed and terrified! We thought that its better to call the security….
Thud! The door slammed open… crash! As it fell on one side!!..we rushed inside!! And we were aghast with the sight that met our eyes! A lifeless body (of a sweet lil gal, not so long ago!) lay on the floor with a bottle of pesticide by the side! We realised that time was running away and if she stood any chance, we would ve to act soon. So while the security lifted her and carried her to the emergency wing of the hospital, we informed the team on call and saw to it that things were in place.by the time we got her to the casualty, her spontaneous breathing efforts had ceased. She had to be put on a ventilator(support device) and started on life supports…
…..these were the times that even you as a doc realise that not everything is in your hands, and then you pray for divine intervention!
….and then as we sat down at night, we all knew the reason behind this… the commonest cause of any attempted suicide in this age(..and when exams are not round the corner!) is a failed love affair!! Today as I sit and write this article I want you guys to tell me why do you think that people take this extreme step and put an end to the most beautiful of god s gifts’ – life!! What is it?? Infidelity..beingduped by your guy? Incompatibility? Parents not willing ( that’s the commonest etiology I can think of!!!) peer pressure?limitation of time? What! Tell me what is it and how do you guys think that these issues could be tackled!
I believe that if someone dumps you for another, you should be happy that you could see the true colours of this guy/gal before the irreversible thing happened and you should be strong enough and move on!(..though easier said than done, I admit!!!)but, never hurt yourself in this ordeal…plz don’t!
If its ‘incompatibility issues’ then, every effort should be made to sort them out! Sit and talk! And inspite of trying your best if someone does not understand, then there s not much that you can do! Right? But again..pl don’t end your life for that worthless thing which could never understand your love!nah!
And coming down to parental resentment, there are two things that I can think of..one, if the love is true, I believe that a little leniency could help! True love is one wonderful thing and the one s in ‘it’ will surely agree with me! pl don’t break this bond coz it deals with two lives and nothing can match the agony and despair of separation when there s no reason to move out.. it kills two lives at the same time! Two, if the guy/gal understand the fact that huge resentment exists for their relationship its better for them not get into anything like this, right at the outset(..again, easier said than done coz we all know that love happens even before you know that it has happened!!).. well I know that was a confusing one, na…
…but in the end all imgonna say is that love is one wonderful thing..its the best feeling that one can have,so please take care of your partner.. respect her, stand by her when she needs you the most! And in rough times believe in god coz if he has brought you to it, then surely he ll take you through it as well! Don’t end a life coz that can never be a solution to any of your problems!
Well that’s it, now I lay it open for my friends to gimme their views and inputs in the comments section(pl do that if u appreciate what I ve written… thanks!)……
……all this while when I was talking on the phone, I could hear someone wailing in the background..what was it?? Cross connection? Halluncination?( you know, in the olden days, when the lords used to stay in their castles in the moor, every castle had a ‘banshee’ and when it wailed, it signified bad luck..an omen that something evil would befall the family!!)with this grim sound in the background, I was just not comfortable. So I hung up and tried to find out what was wrong?and where? Just as I came out of my room, the sound of sobbing grew louder! And I followed my ears as they led me to this room with closed doors! Yes! I could hear someone sobbing inside. Now this room was occupied by one of our first year residents! I was sure that something was amiss.. I mustered all my courage and banged on the door..no response.. the sobs continued!... thud! Again I banged the door and asked her to please open the door and let me in… again, no response! Thick beads of perspiration from my forehead trickled down over my face! I could feel my heart beats’ now…palpitations as they call it! I picked up my cell and dialled her roomie s no..and quickly told her about the situation down here! She was here in a jiffy, and both of us were now banging at the door but with the same result!!!?? The sobs had stopped and gurgling noises were heard! Neither of us had any clue of what was happening… and both of us were equally flummoxed and terrified! We thought that its better to call the security….
Thud! The door slammed open… crash! As it fell on one side!!..we rushed inside!! And we were aghast with the sight that met our eyes! A lifeless body (of a sweet lil gal, not so long ago!) lay on the floor with a bottle of pesticide by the side! We realised that time was running away and if she stood any chance, we would ve to act soon. So while the security lifted her and carried her to the emergency wing of the hospital, we informed the team on call and saw to it that things were in place.by the time we got her to the casualty, her spontaneous breathing efforts had ceased. She had to be put on a ventilator(support device) and started on life supports…
…..these were the times that even you as a doc realise that not everything is in your hands, and then you pray for divine intervention!
….and then as we sat down at night, we all knew the reason behind this… the commonest cause of any attempted suicide in this age(..and when exams are not round the corner!) is a failed love affair!! Today as I sit and write this article I want you guys to tell me why do you think that people take this extreme step and put an end to the most beautiful of god s gifts’ – life!! What is it?? Infidelity..beingduped by your guy? Incompatibility? Parents not willing ( that’s the commonest etiology I can think of!!!) peer pressure?limitation of time? What! Tell me what is it and how do you guys think that these issues could be tackled!
I believe that if someone dumps you for another, you should be happy that you could see the true colours of this guy/gal before the irreversible thing happened and you should be strong enough and move on!(..though easier said than done, I admit!!!)but, never hurt yourself in this ordeal…plz don’t!
If its ‘incompatibility issues’ then, every effort should be made to sort them out! Sit and talk! And inspite of trying your best if someone does not understand, then there s not much that you can do! Right? But again..pl don’t end your life for that worthless thing which could never understand your love!nah!
And coming down to parental resentment, there are two things that I can think of..one, if the love is true, I believe that a little leniency could help! True love is one wonderful thing and the one s in ‘it’ will surely agree with me! pl don’t break this bond coz it deals with two lives and nothing can match the agony and despair of separation when there s no reason to move out.. it kills two lives at the same time! Two, if the guy/gal understand the fact that huge resentment exists for their relationship its better for them not get into anything like this, right at the outset(..again, easier said than done coz we all know that love happens even before you know that it has happened!!).. well I know that was a confusing one, na…
…but in the end all imgonna say is that love is one wonderful thing..its the best feeling that one can have,so please take care of your partner.. respect her, stand by her when she needs you the most! And in rough times believe in god coz if he has brought you to it, then surely he ll take you through it as well! Don’t end a life coz that can never be a solution to any of your problems!
Well that’s it, now I lay it open for my friends to gimme their views and inputs in the comments section(pl do that if u appreciate what I ve written… thanks!)……
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